Making contact better – Your child and you

When parents have separated, contact can be challenging and emotionally painful for the children and their non-resident parent.

It is important to make every contact count, and deliver what your child needs most.

Rejection

Rejection is one of the hardest emotions to deal with. Not only does it feel like betrayal, it often involves real betrayal — and with it the collapse of Trust. To then find yourself Single is nothing short of an offence against the soul; A slap in the face of everything you thought you stood for; and a punishing combination of denial and cruel self-analysis.

Parental Alienation

Case: “My ex has stopped me having any contact with our children. We divorced a few years ago and I immediately had a mental breakdown. The end of my marriage was very traumatic and abusive. I could not stop crying. I felt worthless and completely useless. I admit that I was not capable of acting like a good parent. But when it came to Court, they overlooked the abuses I had suffered and zoomed in on my mental health and my ex got full custody. I am supposed to have regular overnights and contact but I am not getting any of it. Now I can’t even speak with my children. My ex says they don’t want anything to do with me. I am so low. I feel judged and the whole process has made me completely anxious. Nothing is helping. What can I do?”

What is Domestic Abuse?

A explainer piece about what Domestic Abuse is. How to identify it. What are your options if affected by it and some thoughts about how Children are affected by being caught in toxic relationships. a Good read.

Is there a difference between a Narcissist and Controller?

I find, today, that people have become confused by the difference in meaning of what a narcissist is, versus a controlling person or a coercively controlling person. And in so doing, the word ‘Narcissist’ has become a definition and term for any kind of controlling behaviour.

Becoming Single. The Life after.

Case: “I never wanted to be single. My entire life has been within relationships. My last relationship lasted 15 years and since it ended, I have become lost. As I became more dependent on my former partner, I withdrew more and more from the outside world. Everything we did was done together, from the shopping to going out. The only thing I did myself, was take the kids to school and back. I have become depressed with everything. I am so jumpy too, especially if someone comes to the front door. Scares me half to death. I spoke to my GP who said I needed some CBT. And I am on the list. But it is months away. I want to do more. But I just do not know where to start. How do I live with life on my own?”