Making contact better – Your child and you

When parents have separated, contact can be challenging and emotionally painful for the children and their non-resident parent.

It is important to make every contact count, and deliver what your child needs most.

Bitterness is not your friend

It can be very hard to detach feelings about separation, divorce and the life thereafter from dealing with issues in the family Court.

It is natural, for both parents to bring in their historic issues and want some kind of restorative justice. Unfortunately, in cases which involve children and shared care arrangements, the adults are a secondary concern to the needs of the juniors.

Dealing with Cafcass

This guide deals with the Safeguarding Letter process which Cafcass undertakes on behalf of the Court in preparation for the FHDRA (first hearing dispute resolution appointment).

Parental Alienation

Case: “My ex has stopped me having any contact with our children. We divorced a few years ago and I immediately had a mental breakdown. The end of my marriage was very traumatic and abusive. I could not stop crying. I felt worthless and completely useless. I admit that I was not capable of acting like a good parent. But when it came to Court, they overlooked the abuses I had suffered and zoomed in on my mental health and my ex got full custody. I am supposed to have regular overnights and contact but I am not getting any of it. Now I can’t even speak with my children. My ex says they don’t want anything to do with me. I am so low. I feel judged and the whole process has made me completely anxious. Nothing is helping. What can I do?”